What happens if someone turns on a Psychopath and tells others about Secrets he may have Revealed to them during their relationship?
A Reader asked me some questions about this and I decided to publish my response in an article about the topic of how a Psychopath generally feels and thinks about issues such as Distrust, Disloyalty, and Betrayal. In the following two articles I'll tell you what I have to say about it...
I'm curious as to how a psychopath maintains an intimate relationship for any length of time, say 10 years, without it being figured out that the person is faking emotions, at least, in a Neuro typical way?
This is simply a question about habit, faking emotions become part of your automatic behavior, and sometimes we are more believable than normal people who really do feel the motions they display. Even 'secrets' that might otherwise reveal your nature depends a lot upon how you reveal them and what context you put them into.
If f.x. you say "I've committed murder", and when asked about how and why this came about you say "I did it as an experiment, I wanted to know what it felt like", any normal person will think 'this is not normal, there's something wrong with this man' and will proceed to become fearsome about you. Indeed, professing secrets in this manner will accomplish not more trust but less, because so few understand what psychopathy is and what triggers our reasons - emotional or otherwise - for deciding to follow an impulse to act (whether that action be 'Right or Wrong').
More, let's say, a person starts to catch on and doubt a psychopaths sincerity, do psychopaths feel anything about that when trying to be convincing? In other words, would this be disappointing?
Of course we feel something about it. It is disappointing when an effort you've made doesn't pay out. It always depends upon the person you're dealing with and the situation s/he and you are in, individually and together. Most typically you'll at first try and double your efforts, since when people begin to catch on to you and start doubting you it's usually because you've begun to slack in the first place, you've become sloppy and maybe even careless - a very human thing to do, by the way, and often the very reason why people get caught in all kinds of things from "Sloppy Cheating" to "Sloppy Serial Killing".
But sometimes there's no going back. You may try with a bit of Coercion, but if it's truly too late, if it was a beneficial or otherwise profitable relationship you'll become frustrated and annoyed, but if you realize you can't turn things around and there's no way to change it, you simply move on. This happens from time to time to us all, it comes with the territory of living life as a Psychopath.
Do you ever cry and if so, would it be the same feeling behind tears for you as with anyone? Happy tears or sad tears?
I haven't cried to make someone believe me since I was child.
On one occasion that I remember, I was crying not because of sorrow or pain but because I was so angry and there was no outlet at the time. I was put in confinement and kept under strict surveillance, so it was my first lesson in patience. Otherwise, as a kid I was very good at crying when I could gain something from it. I was very manipulative, I used my ability to cry on cue for gaining advantages and to escape consequences when I was caught doing something that was forbidden. I'd cry both sad and happy tears if it helped my case.
When I entered Puberty Crying became harder and I used to wonder why. I later learned it has to do with the hormonal changes that boys go through (Male Puberty & Crying). I'm pretty sure my feelings, when I cried, were never the same as normal people's feelings.