This is basically about psychopaths and our (in-?)famous talent for Seduction. It is often said that psychopaths can portray or become anyone that a possible 'victim' wants or needs them to be, and I'll say that this is probably one of the more accurate, true descriptions of the talents most psychopaths have - myself included.
I came across the video above while I was looking through videos with and by Leonard Cohen on Youtube, and as I listened to this number for the first time in years - I hadn't heard it since long before I began my Psychopathic Writings shortly after my release little more than 3 years ago - it hit me that the number would be perfect as a presentation of that one among the most commonly experienced aspects (though clearly not one of the most commonly described) aspects of what a psychopath is also capable of doing, and one which we quite often will do.
I'm talking about the ability of impersonation. Especially in situations when I'm courting a non-psychopathic person (many scholars and researchers refer to it as the psychopath having 'hunted down new prey' and maybe that he is now playing with his victim, 'true to his nature as the inter species predator of the human race').
In my personal experience there is no single opinion of such an encounter with a psychopath who plays the part of what is the partner's perfect lover (though this is often not conscious to them and the information is picked up subtly and indirectly). This is something psychopaths are often very good at, though you can't assume anybody is a great lover just because they're a psychopath. There are insensitive and dumb individuals among psychopaths too, people who can't pick up even the most obvious cues and who often don't really care to do so anyway. But those are not the ones we'll talk about here.
I have heard many a lament about neurotypical men being terribly bad at Courtship or seduction. And there's no denying that psychopaths in general - when they really make an effort at this - are generally better at The Art of Seduction than are most normal folk.
I think some of the explanation for this can be found in the psychopath's ability to give his subject (or victim, if you will) his complete and whole attention. People like myself do rarely feel the need to elaborate about our own lives and pasts - unless the subject for our courtship is in the mood to be spoon fed some seductive lying. I can be quite eloquent during such moments and have in the past produced some intriguing, fantastic lies when it took me. But I do prefer to be the gentleman and not force such self-centered stories upon a lady - or a gentleman, for that matter (though I would be lying now if I claimed any expertise in that area) - who doesn't show specific interest in 'hearing me talk about my life'.
I have emptied quite nicely packed bank accounts of women who, when later our paths accidentally crossed again, send me a knowing, flirtatious smile. I have revisited a few 'darling subjects' as well, but I have of course also had the sometimes inevitable heated emotional crying and begging switched and turned into shouting and accusing me of all sorts of things, sometimes even accusations to which there was no truth (yes, neurotypicals too aren't perfect).
It's fun when being 'Your Man' can take place under more glamorous circumstances, it gives the whole thing a more adventurous and even romantic quality. But many of these encounters does in reality take place in business related settings or at 4 star hotels - not the French Riviera or celebrity frequented 5 star hotels in Beverly Hills. Some take place at 3 and 4 star restaurants, or even at bars - not at penthouse suites and casinos in Las Vegas or Monaco.
However, some of the dynamics remain the same where ever your excursions and hunting take place, though the types of surprises you can come upon can in some ways be very different depending on the amount of money as dispose to the subject and the level of familiarity with a life in luxury they are.
For what I would call obvious reasons I will at times build a relationship with someone I've found interesting and useful. And it invariably leads to various levels and expressions of bitterness towards me when I finally leave to pursue new experiences and opportunities. No doubt some of these ladies, some of these girls and playmates, have eventually decided I was victimizing them - even when I hardly made any effort to influence them psychologically - something I admittedly had a weakness for doing.
To me Mind Games (playing games with somebody's mind - also called Psychological Manipulation), preferably in conjunction with sex, though not necessarily always at the same time, holds a very special attraction and excitement to me.
Such is the nature of life: Things start out as nothing, then become something, something becomes more and something else, and it all eventually becomes a lot of things. We can't always control everything that happens around us... or, few people can control much if anything, whereas some can control a lot. Nobody, however, can control everything, that's just the way it is, and if we can't find at least some pleasure in uncertainty, in taking a chance now and then and living life a little dangerously from time to time, then we're doomed to become even more powerless than necessary and will end up as pawns in the pockets of the powerful few. We can then watch our weekly soap opera where beautiful, rich people seduce even more beautiful, rich people.
For me it is just not in my nature to let others have all the fun!
I'll rather Be Your Man than have your neighbor be so (let him do his dog - or something). ;)
I am good at entertaining people who are looking for adventure, who wants to encounter something new and exciting - maybe even something marvelous - and who is seeking adventure where they will have to lose that everyday control which for too long has ruled and controlled them rather than the other way around. A predictable, suffocating everyday life which sneaked up upon them, stole and hid the key to their happiness. And now that key is gone because they no longer take chances - unless they decide to give it another try and let me find that key for them.
Perhaps you are such a person? Perhaps you too are tired and weary of a monotonous existence, you have decided that you deserve to live too, and now you're looking for some adventure in life?
Yes, some end up feeling they've become victimized and controlled by me, but far from all feel that way. If they did I would not be able to make it in the world. A person with psychopathic traits who cannot retain himself and behave normally most of the time, will end up either in prison or as a very poor person because he'll lose all of the trust which is so crucial to us.